Mahika Verma, 20
I have tasted independence like how everyone in their 20s want to, because when I joined college, I had no option but to live away from my family.
Living away from home teaches you a lot. One day I was just a kid and the next, I was suddenly exposed to a whole new world, thrown out of my comfort zone. Everything was just ‘not the same’, not the same bed, not the same walls and not the same friends. I usually get to see my family on weekends and sometimes not even that.
‘Independence’ is even bigger for a girl trying to make it big in the event management industry. There is a lot of discrimination. People are looking for eye-candies and not hard-working employees.
People are looking for eye-candies and not hard-working employees.
Working as a volunteer at events, I have faced a lot of uncomfortable situations myself, like people fearlessly pass comments on you. Every day when you come back home, you feel parched, you question yourself if you are even safe doing this job and so even with this fear in my heart I have to find the strength to keep going for if they stop me today, I won’t ever grow. After taking all the pains that I do, I am not giving up so easily. My family may be far apart from me, but they are my strength.
There are days when I am extremely homesick, when I want to hug my mum or gossip with my sister or cuddle with my dog but sometimes you have to make tough choices for the sake of your future. I learnt adjusting and organising myself better. I put more efforts in my relationships now, I try to understand my parents, my siblings, my friends better. Moving away from home didn’t drift me apart from them, the distance made me value all the things they did for me much more.
Moving away from home didn’t drift me apart from them, the distance made me value all the things they did for me much more.
After all, life is not a cakewalk. You will not always get what you want but you keep up the struggle and bustle through every day. This is how it feels to be independent.