Half of my conversations with my parents lead to the phrase ‘hamare zamaney mein’ (in our times). They have so many stories to share, so many good habits we can adopt, a lifestyle too different from ours – the 90s kids. But you know what is worth wondering? What will our ‘In our times.’ be.
Imagine sitting in front of you is your 18-year-old child, ready to listen to the best of your times. For me, the first story would be about the friendship. Yes, ours is the time when stability crashed into social networking and wrecked its leg. It’s a difficult time to go out, make yourself vulnerable to someone. People are taking pride in being dead inside. Despite it all, I have a number of shoulders I can cry on, people I know won’t ever give up on me.
I have had my share of bad friendship experiences too, but I have too much good in my life to complain and that’s how I learnt my first lesson about life. So dear kid, you will meet a lot of temporary people in your life, some of them would hurt you and some of them you will hurt. But in the end, you will find your people, the ones who will uplift you and stay.
The second lesson I would want him to know is that it is ok if we have some differences in opinions. In our times, we had more conservative parents, we too had arguments with them. It’s natural! Being different from each other is what makes us unique. Your age, your surroundings, your decisions won’t be the same as my age, my times, my decisions. But they don’t need to be. If you are really right, I would give in after a while. If you are not, well I told you so.
The words that I will now speak are what, I too, learnt from my mother.
‘We all are entitled to make our own mistakes. Isn’t that how we grow? But being your mother, I will always stop you from doing stupid things.’
You should know this, I nurtured you with all the values I could to make you a good human and I have faith in you but you are my child and I will always stop you if I find you on a wrong path. It’s my love for you that hinders you from making the same mistakes I made. Trust me, I am your mom!
But still, if you ever happen to do something that you can’t speak of, come back home and tell me about it. Yes, I might scold you and tell you what you did was horrible, but I will never stop protecting you. You will never be abandoned. In our times, I learned this very well nothing is as important as family.
You know there are bad things in our times too. Teenagers are doing drugs, the word ‘love’ seems to have lost meaning, money dominates friendships, the queer are still seeking basic rights, humanity is being tested every day, the phobia of commitment was born in our times. But we got through all this and so, however, good or bad your time might seem, just know you will get through this and you will be better.
You know how I know that? Because I am your mom, and moms know everything.
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